Spite
So, I was hanging out with my rl/sl boyfriend/partner in Second Life, and he was trying to build a shoe from the primitive 3D shapes you can use to ... well, build.He laments, after a while, "I can't build shoes."
Well, those that do build shoes - at least the really good ones, couldn't just do it right off the bat. They had to practice. Practice, practice, practice. I mean, it's not like it's just the most infinitely simple process in existance.
At any rate, I went to take a look at a shoe he was working on, and another that he was examining. (No he was not copying, the two styles were completely different, but there were some "little tricks" he was looking into.) As soon as he saw that I was examining the shoe(s), he yanked them up.
I said that he knew I was looking at them, and he admitted that. So, he just picked the shoes up for spite? It's not like he's embarassed to have me check out his building; he knows that he's better at it than I am. He picked them up simply because I was looking at them.
Now, overall, this is a pretty petty event, but I've noticed this with a lot of guys I know. If they have even the slightest little idea that you might make a suggestion about the way they are doing something, they will promptly find a way to eliminate the possibility for the conversation.
Why is this? I mean, is it so bad to have someone make a suggestion? If their suggestion is completely out of left field and won't work for what you have in mind, all you have to do is say so (hopefully, politely) but if their suggestion has some merit, maybe you could learn from it?
God. The male ego. I swear! ;)
posted by Shannon @ 8:10:00 PM
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