Okay, I have to start ranting. This should be blatantly obvious to most people, but it seems that we have a common sense deficit. Not only is it disgusting to watch, but it unfairly gives innocent people a bad reputation.
This potshot at men is for the surprisingly (or seemingly) high amount of men that treat women as nothing more than property or a piece of meat.
You've all seen this happen. Just turn into your typical episode of
Maury or
Jerry Springer to see it in action. This is especially obvious when two men are fighting for the affection of the same woman.
It does not even have to be reduced to the lowest-common-denominator types that are on those shows. Listen to how high school boys talk about girls a lot of the time. Listen to a lot of the most popular music that is currently availiable. The goal for many of these men is to be seen as some kind of glorified pimp, even if they don't know what an actual pimp is.
Sorry, guys. You will not be the pimp that you dream to be.
The strangest thing happens not long from the start of such a relationship. The man will start to complain that the woman he is seeing isn't respecting him enough and he will search for solutions to the problem.
What am I missing here? Hmm...guy wants to be a glorified pimp and treats the woman as an underling...the woman doesn't respect him now...oh God, what could it be?
Which brings me to my next point....
Why are there so many women that seem to go along with this? They will complain that they need to do something to get the man to respect them more...and most of the things they come up with only make things worse.
Listen, if this is some kind of kinky game a couple plays during their play time, fine. However, there looks to be a culture that focuses on being "the pimp" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 364 days a year (Flag Day is an off day, even pimps need a break sometime). Maybe such an attitude will get you the person of your desire, but that will last only briefly. Cutting out this behavior can only be a good thing.
Besides, nobody else wants to look at you trying to walk around as a master pimp.
Why....
.....do men think women don't like sex? I really am a little stunned by the number of men that think we tolerate sex because we feel like we OWE it to them. I'm sorry guys, but women love sex. Some even more than you. Just because a woman doesn't like it with YOU doesn't mean we don't like sex. It probably means you're communication sucks because you aren't picking up any of her signals. (No I don't blame ALL men for that lol) Here's the big ol' difference. Men and women are (take a deep breath) different. So we....? Processing information differently, correct, bonus points to anyone that just got that right lol
Men first off, are visual. Women are focused on vocals. That's a major gap right there. For example the average woman uses about 30,000 words a day. The man? About 15,000, HALF of a woman's. Men also use the left side of their brain, primarily. Now I don't think this applies to ALL men, but that's my opinion, since everyone uses more or less of their brain I hate to throw all men in together like that. Women use both sides of their brain. So there is your scientific, can't deny it, look at the way we think.
I'm just starting to dig into our basic physical and mental differences but here are some links I think are pretty interesting:
Male and Female BrainsStudy suggests difference between female and male sexualityThe New Sex ScorecardThe Difference Between the Male and Female Brain
Why, Oh Why
Why did I decide to do this? Why did I open up a door I'll NEVER be able to close? Because it's something we can't get enough of. Let's face it. Men and women both like to complaining about, er, well, each other. In depth. And detail.
Admittedly I start this because of men. Because of men making rude comments to me because somehow they think it'll land them somewhere between my zipper and skin. WHY exactly, they think that, I'll never know.
I'll add more writers, and more reason. And after I've got enough data, this will hopefully become my claim in life. To write the book where everyone's lying honestly.
Sincerely yours,
Lily
